For Our Young People
(J.C. Ryle, “The Duties of Parents“)
From Grace Gems Puritan Devotional:
Train your children to a habit of obedience. No habit, I suspect, has such an influence over our lives as this. Parents, determine to make your children obey you–though it may cost you much trouble–and cost them many tears! Let there be no questioning, and reasoning, and disputing, and delaying, and answering back. When you give them a command, let them see plainly that you will have it done.
It ought to be the mark of well-trained children, that they cheerfully do whatever their parents command them. Where, indeed, is the honor which the fifth commandment enjoins, if fathers and mothers are not obeyed cheerfully, willingly, and immediately?
Parents, do you wish to see your children happy? Take care, then, that you train them to obey when they are spoken to–to do as they are told.
To my eyes, a parent always yielding–and a child always having its own way–are a most painful sight! Painful, because I feel sure the consequence to that child’s character in the end will be self-will, pride, and self-conceit!
Parents, if you love your children, let obedience be a motto and a watchword continually before their eyes!
Learn to say “No” to your children. Show them that you are able to refuse whatever you think is not fit for them. Show them that you are ready to punish disobedience, and that when you speak of punishment, you are not only ready to threaten, but also to perform. Do not merely threaten. Threatened folks, and threatened faults, live long.Punish seldom, but really and earnestly. Frequent and slight punishment is a wretched system indeed.
Beware of letting small faults pass unnoticed under the idea, “it is a little one.” There are no little things in training children–all are important. Little weeds need plucking up as much as any. Leave them alone, and they will soon become giants!
Parents, if there is any point which deserves your attention, believe me, it is this one. It is one that will give you trouble, I know. But if you do not take trouble with your children when they are young–they will give you trouble when they are old! Choose which you prefer!
Do not be afraid, above all, that such a plan of training will make your child unhappy. I warn you against this delusion. Depend on it, there is no surer road to unhappiness than always having our own way! To be indulged perpetually is the way to be made selfish–and selfish people and spoiled children, believe me, are seldom happy!
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A, B, C for Children and Adults
B b = Believe Me that I am in the Father and the Father in Me, John 14:11
C c = Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right, Ephesians 6:1
D d = Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it, Psalm 34:14
E e = Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right, Proverbs 20:11
F f = Fear not: for I am with thee: I will bring thy seed from the east, and gather thee from the west, Isaiah 43:5
G g = He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love, 1 John 4:8
H h = Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee, Exodus 20:12
I i = If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it, John 14:14
J j = Jesus saith unto him, I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by Me, John 14:6
K k = Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile, Psalm 34:13
L l = Look unto me, and be ye saved, all the ends of the earth: for I am God, and there is none else, Isaiah 45:22
M m = My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways, Proverbs 23;26
N n = No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon, Matthew 6:24
O o = O give thanks unto the LORD; for he is good: because his mercy endureth for ever, Psalm 118:1
P p = Praise ye the LORD: for it is good to sing praises unto our God; for it is pleasant; and praise is comely, Psalm 147:1
Q q = Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong, 1 Corinthians 16;13
R r = Remember Lot’s wife, Luke 17:32
S s = Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near, Isaiah 55:6
T t = And she called the name of the LORD that spake unto her, Thou God seest me: for she said, Have I also here looked after him that seeth me, Genesis 16:13
U u = Unto thee, O God, do we give thanks, unto thee do we give thanks: for that thy name is near thy wondrous works declare, Psalm 75:1
V v = And in that day ye shall ask me nothing. Verily, verily, I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall ask the Father in my name, he will give it you, John 16:23
W w = What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee, Psalm 56:3
X x = Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust, 2nd Peter 1:4
Y y = Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid, Matthew 5:14
Z z = Out of Zion, the perfection of beauty, God will shine forth, Psalm 50:2
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